the bed

I think every couple has their little quirky things they like to argue about.  Ehren and I can find agreement with most things fairly easily but somehow, our bed is an ongoing issue for us.  And by that I mean the bed in a physical sense, in a sense of sleeping of course. :)  You see, I grew up sleeping on a bed frame that my dad built which was sitting on the floor so I would lie just inches away from the floor.  This is pretty normal in Europe and most of the beds they have are very low which is what I prefer.  And then I married a man who comes from a country where most people prefer to fly in the air as they sleep, at least that's what it feels like when you finally climb up to the top of their beds.  Needless to say, we both like completely different beds.  Quite a few years ago I got my wish and we bought a low bed frame that I love, but Ehren doesn't love the fact that I don't want to use the box spring with our mattress on it.  The reason is that when you add the box spring to our already very thick mattress it is way too high for the bed frame or my taste.  So we argued about it for a while and recently Ehren decided to put the box spring on because he says it helps his back pain.  I wasn't happy though because really, it is just way too high that way (don't get me started on how ugly it looks) and it just throws me every time I wake up, plus it is too soft for me that way too.  Maybe we need a sleep number bed so we are both happy but in the meantime, I looked for one of those memory foam toppers to put on top of our mattress.  It wasn't cheap but the reviews were very good so last night was the first night with the box spring finally gone and the new memory foam on the top.  Neither of us felt like wow, this is awesome after the first night but at the same time we both slept really good.  I love how you don't feel the other person moving around and how it's firm but soft at the same time.  So that is our bed story and I really hope the topper will mean a happy and resolved bed conflict for us. :)  I was trying to think of another silly example Ehren and I constantly don't see eye to eye on but I have to say this must be the only thing that usually comes back to haunt us.   I'd love to hear what is something other couples argue about, I bet there would be a lot of funny examples.  It is funny how we're all so different and how we need to blend our lives together when we get married, with all the good and bad, with all the fun and weird habits which we don't see as much in ourselves but we definitely see in our spouses. :)  It's what makes life beautiful and interesting and I'm so glad God designed it this way so we have a helper and mate to share this life with.  Even if his vision of a perfect bed is on the very opposite side of mine, I know that in the end whatever bed we have the best place to be is in his arms.  And I have to say my favorite and cherished moments with Ehren are when we talk and talk (or cry or laugh) because one of us can't sleep until midnight or later, just lying in our bed.  Happy 12th anniversary to my Ehren this Sunday and I hope we have many more years to argue about a bed together but mostly to see the gifts we are to each other every day.